Ah yes, the dating game. Regardless of race, sex, ethnicity, religion, or even sexual orientation, we're all active participants in the search for love (in one form or another). So I pose this question......
WHY IS IT SO FREAKING HARD TO FIND?
As part of a very close knit group of women who often bear a resemblance to the characters from Sex and the City, Girlfriends, and sometimes even The Golden Girls, I hear a lot of concerns about dating. As a single woman looking for love (ew), I have some of the same concerns. First things first. I'm not really sure what I want. Maybe that's my whole problem. I do know that I want to find love (the can't live without each other love) eventually. Right now I'd rather just have a companion to do things with and talk about everything and nothing with. You'd think it'd be easy for me to find someone like this right?
WRONG!!!
Finding a man who 1)doesn't bore my pants off 2)is actually honest about what he wants and 3)can hold an intelligent convo has proven to be a difficult task. I'm not picky. He doesn't have to look like Reggie Bush (though that would help). I just need 2 cups of intelligence, honesty, and wit, with a dash of compassion and a pinch of sexy. A little ambition wouldn't hurt either. Is that too much? Am I more picky than I realized? It seems we can't actually have all the things we look for in a mate, and I never expected that. But just because he's intelligent and witty, does this mean he has to be a liar? Or he's honest and compassionate but dumb as a box of rocks.
Sorry but I need a little more!
I refuse to settle for something I don't REALLY want. A pastor I know once compared the dating game to shoe shopping. He said you can spot a shoe that is EXACTLY what you're looking for, but it might be two sizes too small. Some people will take this shoe home and try to force it on their fat ass feet and end up with corns and bunions and eventually realize that no matter what u do. The shoe just doesn't fit. I will not take home a shoe that doesn't fit.
If all this wasn't enough of a reason to give it all up, most of the men we come across refuse to KI100 (like my Twitter boo says) and tell us what they are really looking for. I take that back not most men, but a lot of men. Why do they refuse to be honest with us? I do understand that more often than not if you tell a woman "I'm just looking for sex", she'll tell you to kick rocks. But hey that's just a part of dating. No means next. Please don't waste my time trying to make me believe you actually give a damn when you don't give a rat's ass. I have better things to do with my time. It turns me all the way off when a guy fronts like that. With me, honesty will get you farther than any lame ass lines you can throw at me.
HALLELUJAH!
You find him. He may not look like Reggie Bush, and he may not be the smartest or funniest man in the world, but he has a little bit of everything you're looking for. He makes your heart race and your palms sweat. He makes those old dating days feel like the Dark Ages. And this, my friends is why I won't give up. I'll keep looking for him.
Well this is my simple opinion about the whole love thing. You don't find love, it finds you!
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